Neurodivergence & Intimacy


When we talk about neurodiversity we typically tend to mean autism, ADHD, OCD, dyslexia, dyspraxia, and similar presentations. Someone may also have related conditions such as synesthesia. 

The terms neurodivergence and neurodiversity are often used interchangeably. While there is a medical model of neurodivergence, how neurodiverse individuals self-define varies hugely. For example, some describe themselves as disabled and some don’t. Clinically speaking, neurodivergence is classed as a psychosocial disability. 



Whether someone wants it or not, getting a clinically-recognised diagnosis is a privilege and not available to many neurodiverse people. In some countries, it’s possible to receive a free diagnosis for children but not for adults. In the UK, for example, it can take to two years to complete the free process for an adult through the NHS or you can pay around £2000 to a private organisation. 

For those who can’t afford it or are unable to access diagnostic services, self-diagnosis is completely valid. You can also read articles or watch videos from other neurodivergent people to see if their experiences feel similar to yours. 


Neurodivergent Dating

Some neurodivergent people struggle with the uncertainty and lack of clear rules and boundaries in dating. This article offers a range of ways to make it easier and to approach it differently. 


Sex & Sensory Processing

For many neurodivergent people, sensory stimulation is noticeably different than for most neurotypical people. This can make them more or less sensitive, which can be confusing or troubling during sex. This article goes into detail about the impact of neurodivergent sensory processing on sex.


Being Neuroqueer 

Some people who are both neurodivergent and queer enjoy using the label neuroqueer. You can read more about its origins and try it on for size in this article.


Having a neurodivergent Therapist

If you are neurodivergent or are the partner of someone who is, it can be helpful and insightful to have a therapist who is also neurodivergent. Together, we can explore your challenges and find ways to navigate and script difficult conversations and confusing situations that really work for you. You are unique and deserve tailor-made therapy to meet your needs.