Sex & Relationship Therapy

Remote Sessions

Currently, all sessions are held online using Google Meet. 

Common Questions

Who are your clients?

My clients tend to be unusual, kind, and fascinating adults who like to do things their own way. Whether quietly bookish or artistic rebels, they strive to give their best while disrupting and challenging social norms. They live with integrity and believe in treating themselves and others with respect. Many describe themselves as “different” and you can meet some of them in this article.

Whoever you are, all of who you are is most warmly welcome here. 

What are your specialites?

Intimata is an inclusive practice and I work with all genders, sexualities, and relationships between consenting adults.

Much of my client work and research focuses on:

Why should I work with you?

You’re already looking for professional support, so I would encourage you to keep going and find someone who feels like a good match.

When we work together, it’s important that you feel heard, held, seen, and safe. Talking about sex with a stranger can be really difficult, so I want to make it as easy as possible for you.

I, too, have felt “different” much of my life and I would love to offer you the therapeutic support you need and deserve.

Frequently Asked Questions

Talk therapy offers you a dedicated, discrete, and safe space to unpack and work through challenges in your personal life. 

Please be aware that you need to be in a relatively stable mental state to undertake therapy. If you are in urgent crisis or an emergency situation, in the UK please call the Samaritans on 116 123, LGBT Helpline on 0300 330 0630, search online for free helpline or contact a doctor or primary health care centre.

Sex and relationship therapy is for any adult (someone aged 18 or over), who has a sexual, intimate, or relationship problem. This might be a physical, emotional, or psychological problem, or a mixture of all three. 

Not at all. You can come to therapy whether you’re single, in one relationship or many, married, separated, or divorced. 

All non-conventional relationship structures (C/ENM, polyam, D/S, QP, swinging etc) are warmly welcome, as long as they’re between consenting adults.

Most clients attend at the same time every week. This keeps the momentum and accountability going, which facilities change and helps embed healthier new behaviours. 

Occasionally, some clients have therapy every other week by agreed arrangement. 

Both individual and relationship therapy is 175€ / £150 per 50-minute session.

You pay monthly in advance. A 10% late fee is added for each week an invoice is overdue.

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This is impossible to say without knowing your personal situation. However, my aim is to empower you to have the skills and confidence to leave therapy sooner rather than later.

Yes, everything you share is confidential, with very few exceptions which can be found in the contract. For example, if you share that you are going to hurt yourself or someone else or if your notes are legally requested, such as by the Police. I will aim to notify you that I am breaking your confidentiality, if I am able to do so. For more details of how personal information is handled, please see the privacy notice

I may discuss your situation, but not your personally identifying details, with my supervisor. This is to monitor and improve my therapeutic competency.

You are the expert on you. Trust your intuition and instinct but also do your due diligence. This means checking the credentials, experience, and specialities of any professional you’re thinking of working with. 

This article walks you through the steps to choosing the right sex therapist for you.

A lot of people find it initially uncomfortable or nerve-wracking to talk frankly about sex, intimacy, and sexuality. If you feel that way, let me reassure you, you’re not alone. You may also be wanting to talk about something you’ve not yet told anyone else. 

I will do my best to hold a safe space for you to bring your true self, which includes all of your different parts and aspects. 

All genders, sexualities, sexual identities, and consenting adult relationships are most welcome.

As well as being a therapist, I’m also a kinky, non-monogamous human being. I attend kink, fetish, and other sex-related events. 

For your confidentiality, if you are or have been a client, I will ignore you if I see you and pretend I don’t know you. You are welcome to talk to me if you wish. If this is something that concerns you, we can discuss it together.

At the moment, weekly sessions are only available online. 

In-person intensives are available. 

Yes, you can. Confidentiality and data protection are taken very seriously.

Here is the Intimata contract and privacy policy.

Treatment Specialties

Psychosexual Issues

Psychosexual/Sex Therapy can treat a wide range of physical and psychological problems. This includes a loss of sexual desire, painful sex, genital pain, low arousal, erection problems including premature ejaculation or difficulty maintaining an erection, sexual trauma, and difficulty having an orgasm.

Relationship & Intimacy Problems

Relationship Therapy can help cultivating and maintaining emotional connection, communication difficulties, infidelity, fighting or growing apart, differences in libido or sexual preferences, and changes in relationship structure.

Sexuality & Sexual Identity

Individual therapy can be used to explore your unique and evolving gender journey, related euphoria and dysphoria, as well as experiences of your sexuality. We can help find practical and enjoyable solutions to gender non-conforming and trans sex and intimacy challenges. Ace and greysexual sensual pleasure can also be explored.

Kink & BDSM

Together, we can discuss ways for you to have kink and BDSM in your life and to play scenes with more confidence and competence, safely and satisfactorily.
If you have a fetish or kink that you feel is hampering your intimacy, this is a shame-free space to help you shift your relationship with the object or habit and have the sort of sex you’d really love to have (if any).

Non-monogamy & Polyamory

You may be completely new to non-monogamy or starting to explore it, or already well established in polyam relationships. Together, we can find ways to address issues that arise such as jealousy, envy, nesting and co-parenting challenges, and relationship hierarchies, to ensure all your relationships are loving and satiating.

Neurodivergence & Intimacy

If you or a partner are neurodivergent, you may have specific sensory processing issues around sex, as well as non-traditional rules and roles in relationships. We can work together to better understand what's not working for you. From that, we can create ways to help you navigate overwhelming situations, such as scripting, and improve your ability to feel your emotions with more clarity. This will help you focus on what truly brings you joy and pleasure.